Pushy or encouraging?
September 21, 2009 — Alenka | Posted in Teach Your Child. No Comments »I really like the definition of “pushiness” vs. “encouragement” in Mary Sheedy Kurcinka “How to raise a spirited child”: pushiness makes us feel bad and manipulated, while encouragement makes us feel good about ourselves and empowered. I do believe that a parent who is sensitive to the feelings and needs of his kid, can find the golden middle and often knows better then a kid.

This collection of presentations is another terrific idea by A.P.P.: every single one of these books explores the words in “Charlotee’s web”. It’s great to be able to explain in detail to the little ones, what words “cellar”, “keen”, “humble” actually mean! All presentations are wonderfully worded and illustrated. So, I find them useful even without reference to the book where the words originated - I look at it as a wonderful small “picture dictionary”.
My son has a great progress with English reading. Books from A.P.P. and Isa help us tremendously, and so do our own words/couplets/sentences presentations. Now our technique is definitely not Doman - we watch and read slides together. We take turns reading slides. We play games. We break the words down phonetically - for some reason my son really enjoys this process, and I am happy to adjust any system to fit his favorite learning style. The only Doman rule that I believe should be set in stone - is “do it joyously”! For the best results, I do believe that kids should enjoy the learning process.
“Mommy, why?… Daddy, why?…” Isn’t it wonderful to have a book that addresses exactly that question? A.P.P. addresses this in one of his terrific presentations below… and then take us on a ride on a Ferris Wheel at the “Amusement Park” presentation!
“Mommy, why do stars twinkle? Daddy, why do fingers look funny in a bathtub? Mommy, why do we need to go to bed? Daddy, why?…Why?..” Do you have a “why-attack” in your home? I love those questions. I think it exposes kids curiosity. I think it shows is their thirst for knowledge. I think it is fun to learn about things, I haven’t even thought of myself! And I think that by answering them, we show our kids how much we respect them, their desire to learn, how much we encourage getting to know about this world.
Astronomy is a fascinating subject: unfortunately, my own knowledge is very limited on it. On the other hand, my kid gets mesmerized whenever other planets are mentioned or spaceships are appearing in the picture. His eyes start to shine like two big stars of a totally new constellation -the one that captures my heart. Million thanks to A.P.P. for his terrific set of presentations about space:
“I just can’t get it: how many times does it take to remind my daughter to say PLEASE!!!” - exclaimed a frustrated friend of mine. I can’t get over a different issue: “Do you like when someone pulls your hair? Or pushes you? Or grabs a toy out of your hand? Then, why do you suppose your brother would enjoy it?!” So, I was thrilled to find in A.P.P.’s latest batch of presentations such topics as “Politeness” and “Golden Rule”. Also, in various stories such mysterious subjects as “jail”, “judge” started showing up. I loved having it all explained! Thanks again to A.P.P. for a wonderful set of presentations!
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